Prepare for your new relationship

By Margaret, 06 February, 2012.
One third of marriages are now expected to end in divorce. And yet, when it happens to us, we are often very surprised and/or devastated.

The singles and dating scene seems intimidating. It’s a whole new ball game and seems so different than when we were younger. How should we even approach the daunting task of finding someone new to share your life with?

A great way to start is by doing a little spring-cleaning of yourself. Just as you would prepare for a new position at work, or clean the house before guests arrive, you must prepare yourself before you “place yourself on the market” so to speak. It’s a matter of presenting yourself in your best possible light.

Here are some things you could do that may or may not apply to you;

  1. Get a haircut or new hairdo

  2. Spring clean your wardrobe and update

  3. Go to the gym or undertake some sort of exercise

  4. Take up or resume some hobbies so that you have some interesting conversation to contribute

  5. Clear out the residue of previous partner from your home

I often find that singles starting out on this journey have a list of things they don’t want in a new relationship. But start thinking instead about what you would like in a new relationship. You could make a list of the values and temperament that are important to you. Think about what you want and expect from a relationship. Then have a serious think about what you offer and provide yourself. This is where the value is for you. It’s good to know what is important to you and what you value in a relationship, but what you have to offer is much more important. The qualities you display will determine the people who are attracted to spend time with you and get to know you.


Margaret Newitt