Set yourself apart as a gentleman

By Margaret, 03 October, 2019.
Set yourself apart as a gentleman

The basic fundamentals of dating and courting a woman have not really changed over time. Your goal should be to set yourself apart from other men she has met and dated by showing a woman that you are genuinely interested in her, and that you will continue to  put in an effort to do so – not only on the first few weeks of dating, but for the long term (potentially forever).

Does this sound like too much work and effort to you? Think about this: The right woman will love and care for you and will always exceed or match your efforts. Both of you making an effort together makes the dream work. It is far more rewarding and you will have much more fulfillment by putting an effort into one relationship with a special woman you truly love, than it is to put short term effort into always meeting a new woman a few months later because you didn’t put in the effort and attention your special woman deserved.

As a gentleman dating in the modern era, you can easily set yourself apart by how you carry yourself, your presentation, and very importantly, how you treat others. To make a good impression, hold higher standards for yourself than most of the male population. Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a gentleman is a matter of choice.

But let’s cut to the chase, what can you do, realistically, in today’s dating world to attract a mature woman who is tired of playing games?

Stay humble
If you want people to have a high opinion of you the key is not to tell them how brilliant you are.

Bragging to a woman on a first date about a recent promotion, or your brand new car, and how many properties you own, may seem like harmless ways to share good news.

However, self-promotion often backfires. Men often get the trade-off between self-promotion and modesty wrong. A man will mention his money as a means of winning a woman over. Unfortunately, sometimes this works. But most of the time, a woman requires so much more from a man than an impressive bank statement, and the kind of man who talks about his money at length, probably doesn’t have much else.

In modern times, women make their own money and have their own possessions. They  are not always impressed by yours. Sure, she will want to know you have some ambitions and want to match her efforts in life, but bragging about who you’ve met or what you drive or where you live, will send her running in the opposite direction.

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