Why don’t I get her number?

By Margaret, 10 July, 2017.
Why don’t I get her number?

Understanding women can be difficult at any time. Understanding why she doesn’t give you her number can be complicated, but it’s best to uncover the truth and work through it to get a different outcome.

Here are some things to consider about yourself. If you identify with any of these, it could be the reason why you don’t have success with women.

1.Attitude is everything

Do you fall into the trap of any of these?

Do you complain about how life is so unfair? Do you talk about how you have been handed a bad deal in life?

Do you complain about other people and how lame they are?

Do you talk about the things you lack, such as money, free time or fitness?

Women don’t enjoy spending time with men who bring them down and have a negative attitude. They would rather be with someone who makes them feel happy and builds their spirits up.

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2. Is your life interesting?

Are you out there enjoying your life? Do you make time to try new and different experiences? Do you do your best to make your own life full of fun things you love doing?

When you meet a new woman, she will be wondering to herself “Does this guy have a life I would want to be a part of?” If you have a life full of interesting activities, friends and new challanges, she will want to come long for the ride and be a part of it.

It doesn’t mean you need to be rich. But, if you are spending your time watching TV and drinking till you fall asleep, most women won’t be very excited about sharing their life with you. What could you change about your life to make it more attractive to women?

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3. You’re in trouble if this is your goal

When you met a woman you are attracted to, are you thinking “I hope she likes me?” Women can sense this and you will come across as needy.

It is better to be interested and engaging. An equal exchange of asking about her and also providing some information about yourself as well.

4. Confidence not arrogance

Confidence is definitely the most attractive trait you can have. Without it, you will be at the mercy of the women you meet. They will sense it and either be turned off, or some may even try to take advantage of it.

On the other hand arrogance is not attractive at all. Women like to feel noticed and appreciated. If you focus too much on how great you are, and don’t spend time taking an interest in her, she won’t be spending much time with you.

Confidence is the number 1 thing women look for. If you don’t think you ooze it, do some personal development work to improve it.

5. Looks - superficial or Everything?

Men are visual creatures. They take notice of a lovely  smile and a fit body.

Women have a lot more going on when they meet a man. She will check out his smile and physical features as well. And she will notice even more, how he presents himself. She will look at his grooming. Does he look like someone who has a handle on their life? She will take notice of the care you take in presenting yourself.

Like it or not, first impressions are formed very quickly. Recent studies say that all it takes is a tenth of a second to form an impression of a stranger from their face, and that longer exposures don’t significantly alter those impressions (although they might boost your confidence in your judgments). Their research is presented in their article “First Impressions,” in the July issue of Psychological Science.

You can either complain abut women making instant judgements about you, or you can make a concerted effort to make sure you are wearing decent clothes, nice clean shoes, clean fingernails and groomed hair. That will improve your odds in attracting the right women.

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Margaret Newitt
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