New friends, fresh perspective to life

By Margaret, 11 January, 2015.
Life events such as moving to another suburb or city, changing your work circumstances or divorce can isolate us from our former group of friends. Friends are an important part of a well-rounded life.

Some practical suggestions below may help you expand your social circle or to  reinforce your existing friendships.

Stay true to yourself. Don't compromise on your own morality and behaviour just to "fit in."
Be accepting of a potential friends attitude that may vary from yours. It could be an opportunity to bring a fresh perspective to your life.
There's a very old and well know saying, "Treat others as you would like to be treated." It is still relevant and a valuable guide in relationships.
Allow a new relationship to develop in it's own time. Sharing too much information too soon may drive the other person away.
If you are continually criticising the failures and weaknesses of other people, a new friend may wonder if you are also finding fault with them.
Gossiping should be avoided as much as possible. Your friends will no longer trust you and wonder what you're saying about them to others. They will also feel if they tell you something in confidence, you may spread that information.

If you want to be a friend to someone, make sure you let them know all the wonderful things you see in them. There is a lovely poem by Galway Kinnell that talks about this:

… sometimes it is necessary
to reteach a thing its loveliness,
to put a hand on its brow
of the flower
and retell it in words and in touch
it is lovely
until it flowers again from within, of self-blessing.

This poem shows us what it is to be a good friend. We need to reteach our friends their loveliness-in words and in touch.

If you are ready to meet new friends or a partner, Contact us. We had a lot of success partnering our members up last year. Our testimonial page has a list of many happy couples that have met via A Table for Six. We also heard from members who met through other means, but they said that attending our dinners gave them the confidence in their lives that made all the difference. Our members tell us that they enjoy the dinners so much because they find them relaxed, and fun. The pressure they feel with internet dating isn't there at our dinners. It's all about the group enjoying some single company and conversation over dinner.

Margaret Newitt
1300 885 311
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