Your lizard brain could be holding back your social/dating life

By Margaret, 09 March, 2015.
Some of us are our own worst enemies!

It's not totally our own fault. It's partly the fault of our lizard brain.

Knowing is not enough!

Most people know what they should do to give themselves the best opportunity to meet new singles and a new partner. But few people actually do what they know.  Knowing is not enough! You must take action. (These great words are from Tony  Robbins)

Your lizard brain takes over your rational thinking.

How do you deal with procrastination and why do we fight with it?

The lizard brain is a physical part of your brain.  Think of the times when you feel fear or rage. That's your lizard brain taking over your rational thinking. It's that voice in the back of your head telling us to be careful, so slow and compromise on our happiness.

We make a new Years resolution to lose weight or to make a big change in our social lives. Then we eat too much, or we decide to stay home or just hang out with our usual group of friends. It's that lizard brain again. It hates change and achievement and risk.

You'll always have your lizard brain. It won't go away. If we didn't have it, we would live totally reckless lives. So the trick is to ignore the part that is irrational and to listen the part that will keep us safe and let us survive.

What is the worst that can happen?

The best way to do this is take a few moments to think rationally about the situation. If I continue to take this action, what is the worst thing that could happen? Usually, it isn't nearly as bad as what we imagined. It's also smart to visualise a positive outcome. This is the opportunity to override your amygdala. But, if you are being pursued by a big, scary animal, your lizard brain will be very useful.

What can you do to hold yourself accountable?

Tell some friends what you intend to do. That's social accountability. "I'm going to attend social events where I have the opportunity to meet like-minded singles." They will help you past those times when procrastination sets in.

“Don't allow the enemy to steal your dreams through doubt, fear and procrastination. Take action today!”

~John Di Lemme

Life can be so much more exciting and fulfilling when you err on the side of going for it, taking action and choosing adventure.

What are the ways you've allowed fear to hold you back from what you want in life? Have you ever tried to flex your courage muscles only to be stopped by your fear of failure, or feeling stupid? What did you learn? I'd love to hear from you.

Show that lizard brain who's the boss this week!

Margaret Newitt


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