What is appealing in a woman to a man?

By Margaret, 12 March, 2012.
Obviously I'm not a man! But I do speak with a lot of men who contact us because they are single and would like to meet a suitable lady for a genuine relationship. Some of them decide to become a Platinum Member because they want to meet one on one with ladies we have selected for them to meet. Some of them like to meet in a small group at our Tables for Six (sometimes 8 or 4).

Each of them has their own unique story of the journey they are on. But there is a common thread of the things they value in a partner.

Sense of humour- the ability to be able to laugh at yourself or at an awkward situation can mean the difference between a situation going very badly, or tuning it into a positive for a relationship. People who take everything very seriously and can't lighten up are rarely found to be attractive. Laughing at ourselves lets people see that we are human and have our own special weaknesses. That's much more attractive than someone who has the persona of being perfect.

Trust- Men and women both need to feel they can trust their partner to have a deep connection with them. Sometimes we women have a tendency to share far too much with our girlfriends about our most intimate relationship. Men don't understand this need to share and feel they have been betrayed. If they find you have been disclosing details of your relationship with others, they may not feel they can confide in you next time they have an issue to deal with. Of course, they also need to know that you won't cheat on them. This can be especially sensitive if this has happened to them in the past.

Health and Hygiene- This may sound basic, but men are attracted to women who appear that they look after themselves physically. Women who keep themselves with in a healthy weight range are appealing. They don't need to be any particular shape, but practically every man mentions he would like a lady who is slim. Fortunately, it isn't all about being supermodel size. An attractive smile or beautiful friendly eyes are a huge asset in making a man feel attracted to a lady. Paying attention to personal hygiene is also a basic habit to ensure you are attractive to a man.

Good physical relationship- Must love cuddles! Men need to feel appreciated and that they are pleasing their partner. They have a basic need to demonstrate to their partner their love and affection physically. It's a very important part of a healthy relationship and is often a reflection of how healthy the other parts of the relationship are. Men want a partner who is capable and attentive in this area of their relationship.

A highly recommended book is "The 5 love languages" by Gary Chapman. Gary sets out the 5 different areas that men (and women) need to be satisfied.

Men and women alike value these qualities in a partner. So, in many ways men and women are not so different.